16. Faith and Growth Development (Part Four)
We have discussed how our children begin with an “Experienced” faith where it is assumed that their parents and significant adults are correct. The hypothesis is, “This is what we do. This is how we act.”
The second phase is the “joining” or “belonging” stage “This is what we believe and do. This is our group/community. My Identity is connected to belonging”.
The third stage is exploration and questioning, “Is this what I believe?”
Let us remember that each stage is not replaced by the ensuing phase but adds to it.
The fourth stage Westerhoff labels “Owning Faith”. The person’s statement now becomes, “This is what I believe.”
This may occur after a long period of questioning, or very quickly after doubts are seemingly resolved.
For some people this is a dramatic moment of realisation, there is a clear revelation that all that Christ claims is true. This leads to a change of behaviour, a clarity of purpose and a commitment to a radically changed life.
For others the certainty may be faltering or shaky; there may be frequent returns to doubt and questioning. As we mature, we begin to understand the need for interdependence; the help and support of others is needed and valued to help sustain faith and assist us in our journey of exploration.
For some, the owned faith may not be a faith in Christ but a faith in some other ideology, philosophy, or a rejection of any faith.
Remember that these stages are generalised observations.
Remember that none of us moves to another stage having abandoned the previous ones.
Remember that God will work in His way and His time.
But understanding these general trends will enable us to relate with our young people with sensitivity, grace, and intentionality. We will try to nurture our children to faith without despair or anxiety, but with trust and hope in God.
Blessings
Brian